When You Fail Admission.

If you fail to get the admission of your desire, it can be like some one punctured holes through your heart. It is hard to reconcile such pain. I would hope you read this before. It's your battle. 

Such apparent hopelessness is the experience of life. It's what makes us alive. Believe me when I say this. Accepting and moving on is the best thing to do. Don't let this failure define you. You are worth as much as you define yourself. There will be more battles ahead. The important thing is to know you did your best. (If you didn't well you understand) what happens next is a puzzle. You must trust the puzzle maker. The complete picture will make sense. 

On patience:

Patience does not mean to passively endure. It means to be farsighted enough to trust the end result of a process. What does patience mean? It means to look at the thorn and see the rose, to look at the night and see the dawn. Impatience means to be so shortsighted as to not be able to see the outcome. The lovers of Allah never run out of patience, for they know that time is needed for the crescent moon to become full. - Rumi

The problem is the relation we have made between gratitude and motivation. Meaning: this idea that not being happy with what you have means your are passionate to strive   for more.  Surely it is not the only way. Could not it be the case that one is satisfied with what this have and yet still strive for what's  greater?

Different faiths have different attitudes and perceptions of failure. In my faith, receiving  things you wanted is not an indicator that God is happy with you. Similarly, not getting what you wanted doesn't necessarily mean God is angry with you. 

Our faith asks us to embrace the hardships of life. Yes! Accept it. Embrace your current failure. 

If you link gratitude and motivation, than if failure comes, what does it do more than make the current period hell. The concern for tomorrow makes you anxious. Tomorrow tomorrow tomorrow. Our whole lives have been depleted in the concern for tomorrow. What about today. What about now. 

It is hard to reconcile a wounded reader. Know that, falling is inevitable if you risk moving forward. Today you fell little and learned from it. If you hadn't, the fall of tomorrow would have killed you. 

We have made life very difficult. We have equated money with happiness. Nothing causes more pain than wanting something. Do not ruin the enjoyment of what you already have with this want.
Worse is when its something you don't want but society wants. Its called peer pressure. You would have been perfectly happy without it. Its time to take charge of your life and stop caring about what others say and what they want you to become.

If you have failed to go to a prestigious university then do not think you have failed. Proper analysis of data shows it's not the university that linked to the high pay check. Before we go into that let me explain the false analysis. They compared students with the same SAT grades that made it into different colleges( one better than the other) and at the end concluded that the better college goer ended with more pay. Here is the right analysis. Two students with the same grade made it into the same prestigious university but one decided not to go to it. But despite that they both had the same success in the end. Conclusion was not, that this college results in high pay but who the students was matters. But hold on, I get your saying it's the student that matters but I didn't make it in to college. Here the part to understand. We need to question our standards of entry to university. The students I talked about were those applying to the IVY league. What are you musing with? Your local university. Don't let this standard define you. 

Famous Failures

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How things are, you tell yourself I'll start enjoying life in a month when such and such problems are over. Your basically giving a month of your life away. Let us not let circumstance reduce the quality of our lives. You should still enjoy your dinner. The morning walks. The secluded meditation of your Lord. The fresh breeze that reminds. The soothing chirping of the birds.  The company you enjoy. Sleep my friend. Sleep in peace and be not hard on yourself.

On trust in God:

And God said, ‘O children of Adam! So long as My sovereignty exists, do not be afraid of any worldly power or sovereignty. And know that My sovereignty will never cease. O children of Adam! As long as My storehouses are full, do not fear a decrease in your daily sustenance. And know that My storehouses are never empty. O children of Adam! I created you to worship, so do not fool around. I have already guaranteed your sustenance, so do not tire yourself out worrying about where your next loaf of bread is coming from, or how much you will have. Let your limbs work and let your heart put its trust in Me. I swear by My glory and My might that if you are content with what I have allocated for you, I will bring comfort to your heart, mind and body, and you will be praised by Me. But if you show discontent with what I have allocated for you, I swear by My glory and My might that I will set the whole world loose on you and you will be forced to run after your sustenance as the animals in the wild run after theirs, and you will still not get more than what I originally allocated for you. O children of Adam! I created the seven heavens and the earth without any effort, so do you really think that it would trouble Me to simply send a loaf of bread your way? O children of Adam! I have not asked you about tomorrow’s deeds, so do not ask Me about tomorrow’s sustenance! O children of Adam! I love you dearly, so by the rights that I have over you, love Me too with all your heart.”

The world has proclaimed the reign of freedom, especially of late, but what do we see in this freedom of theirs? Nothing but slavery and self-destruction! For the world says:”

“You have desires and so satisfy them, for you have the same rights as the most rich and powerful. Don't be afraid of satisfying them and even multiply your desires.” That is the modern doctrine of the world. In that they see freedom. And what follows from this right of multiplication of desires? In the rich, isolation and spiritual suicide; in the poor, envy and murder; for they have been given rights, but have not been shown the means of satisfying their wants. They maintain that the world is getting more and more united, more and more bound together in brotherly community, as it overcomes distance and sets thoughts flying through the air.”

“Alas, put no faith in such a bond of union. Interpreting freedom as the multiplication and rapid satisfaction of desires, men distort their own nature, for many senseless and foolish desires and habits and ridiculous fancies are fostered in them. They live only for mutual envy, for luxury and ostentation. To have dinners, visits, carriages, rank and slaves to wait on one is looked upon as a necessity, for which life, honor and human feeling are sacrificed, and men even commit suicide if they are unable to satisfy it. We see the same thing among those who are not rich, while the poor drown their unsatisfied need and their envy in drunkenness. But soon they will drink blood instead of wine, they are being led on to it. I ask you is such a man free? I knew one “champion of freedom” who told me himself that, when he was deprived of tobacco in prison, he was so wretched at the privation that he almost went and betrayed his cause for the sake of getting tobacco again! And such a man says, “I am fighting for the cause of humanity.”

“How can such a one fight? what is he fit for? He is capable perhaps of some action quickly over, but he cannot hold out long. And it's no wonder that instead of gaining freedom they have sunk into slavery, and instead of serving the cause of brotherly love and the union of humanity have fallen, on the contrary, into dissension and isolation, as my mysterious visitor and teacher said to me in my youth. And therefore the idea of the service of humanity, of brotherly love and the solidarity of mankind, is more and more dying out in the world, and indeed this idea is sometimes treated with derision. For how can a man shake off his habits? What can become of him if he is in such bondage to the habit of satisfying the innumerable desires he has created for himself? He is isolated, and what concern has he with the rest of humanity? They have succeeded in accumulating a greater mass of objects, but the joy in the world has grown less.”

Excerpt From: Dostoyevsky, Fyodor. “The Brothers Karamazov.” iBooks.